Is it really too hard for all of us now to learn how to flirt?, are we beyond the neanderthal approach in our sophisticated modern world that we have created for ourselves or maybe is it just too silly?
It's our belief that too many of us can over-analyse the situation, so maybe it time to sit back and learn how to flirt and have fun at the same time.

4 Pillars of Flirting
I believe there are 4 cornerstones, or pillars of flirting that make someone a good flirt.
These are Attitude, Awareness, Flexibility and Intention.

How is attiture important? Consider you life as a movie. Where you are the writer, the actor, the director and editor of this movie.

You get to choose the scene and you also get to choose the ending. You get to choose what you focus on and this in turn sets the scene for you movie.

Now, if you don't like anything that is happening in your movie then you change the movie.

So aside from external circumstances beyond out control, we can have control over our own movie.

We can control the attitude, the lines of our mutual dialogue, our flexibility in the way we react, our awareness in what we focus on and our intention by directing the movie.

The only problem is we cannot control other actors, the people we come across during the course of our life. We cannot stop people from not liking us or wanting to talk to us.

Remember what we believe about others affects how we treat them, and in turn, how they respond to us.

Learning How to Flirt
Practice makes perfect. The first step is to make sure you practice. It does not have to be with the one guy or girl you have had your eye on this last year, but anyone beyond the ring of your closest family or friends would help. In fact it is easier to learn how to flirt when there is less at stake sometimes. But remember you have to be careful. You don't want to hurt anyone in the course of your practice. It should be harmless flirting. Make your intentions clear that is nothing serious but just harmless flirting.

Learn how to flirt - what do we need to practice?

If there was one area or flirting tip to practice for most people it is 'eye contact'.

Eye Body Language

First of all practice making eye contact with whomever you meet or even pass in the street. It is great for self confidence. Make sure that in your work place and friends and family you make eye contact. Gaining self confidence will not hurt you in any case.

Put it another way - when you have felt less than confident - how much eye contact do you give? Probably not much.

Well why not put the cart before the horse and learn how to flirt with the basics, and start making eye contact and watch your confidence grow.

Secondly, it gives you that all important practice at maintaining eye contact while your knees start to shake or you feel queezy looking at that cute guy or girl - and doing this until you get used to it.

Now before you start walking around your neighbourhood eyeing every man, women and child like a social outcast, let us set the ground rules. You have to do subtly and politely.

First, practice just walking past someone in the street  ..... Just try smiling and making eye contact with them.

Don't be discouraged if they don't return your smile. For many people, others will not smile back straight away at the beginning but that's all part of our practice and learning here.

Overcoming Fear of Rejection

In fact its critical as we develop our new confidence - not based on others thoughts or reactions.

Just try and practice this at least a few times per day. If you do nothing else for this week, just keep making eye contact to build that confidence.

If you are chatting with someone, just make sure you aren't looking at your feet but instead concentrating on the person's face. Look away once in a while so they don't think you are staring them down of course.

source: ( TopTipsClub)

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1. You practiced your kissing stance in the womb. Two-thirds of people tilt their head to the right when they kiss. Weirdly, this is a habit you might pick up before you're even born, according to Women's Health. Most fetuses tilt their head to the right while in the womb as well. So it looks like you start practicing pretty early.

2. Kissing might determine the fate of your relationship. Couples that are really good at making out together tend to have healthier relationships, according to Sheril Kirshenbaum's The Science of Kissing. So if you can't make out without having an argument, well ... that should tell you something.

3. Kissing releases endorphins and oxytocin. Making out is going to get you feeling happy and positive and less stressed.

4. Your lips are actually more sensitive than your junk. It's part of the reason we love kissing so much. Our lips are super-sensitive according to Krista A. Bloom. You have a ton of nerve endings in your lips: approximately 10,000. The clitoris only has 8,000.

5. The longest kiss on record lasted 58 hours, 35 minutes, and 58 seconds. Think about that world record the next time you see some gross PDA.

6. Not all cultures kiss. A lot of cultures didn't kiss each other on the lips until European explorers introduced them to it. Inuits famously rubbed noses and smelled each other's cheeks. Some cultures in the Middle East and Asia still look down on kissing in public.

7. Humans aren't the only animals that kiss. Cows, puffins, squirrels and even snails also kiss, although chimpanzees are the only animals whose kisses resemble a human kiss. All the other ones look like awkward face-touching.
source: [cosmopolitan]

Even best dating websites can't help!

IT has long been established that if a man wants to cheat he will cheat, no matter how good is the woman he has at home. And there is nothing you can do to stop a man from cheating on you if he has made up his mind to do so. Even if you are loyal.

Forty-one-year-old Georgina S said after 13 years, her husband cheated, and nothing she said or did seemed to make a difference.

"I know for sure that no matter how loyal you are, if he wants to cheat he will cheat," Georgina said. "I never once went outside my marriage. And one day he looked at me and told me that he wished I would cheat even once just so I would understand why he does it."

"Very simply put, men cheat because they can," clinical psychologist Ashlei McFarlane said. "Of course, not all men cheat, so I am speaking only of the subset that actually do."

McFarlane said researchers have identified the following as some reasons why men cheat:

1. Gender. Men are more likely than women to commit infidelity, largely because men have more testosterone, which is one of the fuels for sex drive.

2. Relationship reasons. He may cheat because he feels dissatisfied with the relationship. This can be because of lack of sexual desires being fulfilled, spouse unavailability due to work, school or family commitments.

"A lot of men complain of feeling left out after the birth of a child, for example, and long to be the centre of attention again," McFarlane said.

3. Situational reasons. "Others cheat because of the situation. A man might not have a personality prone to cheating, and might be in a perfectly happy relationship, but something about his environment puts him at risk for infidelity," McFarlane said. "Alcohol is known to lower one's inhibitions, so a few drinks coupled with being alone in an intimate setting, say, after work with a co-worker, can lead to cheating. An overabundance of women in the work or school setting, for instance in our tertiary institutions where the females outnumber the males by far in many programmes, is another reason. This can lead the man in a relationship to feel as though he is a kid in a candy store."

4. Work environment. Work environments that involve close contact and touching between co-workers have been known to spark workplace romances even among those who are married or already in relationships.

5. The 80/20 rule. "A man will generally only get about 80 per cent of his needs satisfied by any one woman. Some men will accept this as the way it is, while others will decide to fill the last 20 per cent with someone else," McFarlane said. "So a man in a committed relationship or marriage will have his gorgeous, classy, educated, loyal wife, the mother of his children, his arm candy at social and business functions, but she does not know how to fill his wildest sexual fantasies and some men even feel it would be out of order to request that their beautiful wife perform such acts. So he goes to the girl who is less inhibited but perhaps is not wife material, but she will go on her head top and whatever else he requests so that he can have a good time and go back home to his family a happy man," she explained.

McFarlane explained that the whole socialisation that black men go through to say that this is the norm is also a contributing factor to cheating on loyal women.

"I believe that has been hammered so much into some men's heads that it becomes a part of who they are even though they are married or in committed relationships," she added. "Some also do it for the thrill of the chase, like it gives them a rush to see that they can get this one and that one."

source:http://www.jamaicaobserver.com

Written from a man's point of view

Number 1 : Constant nagging

Sarcastically said, we. will all agree that men are stupid and primitive, even smart guys are stupid. This is why women feel enabled to tell us what to do all the time. The more we stay silent in order not to get into wasteful arguing, the worse it gets! :

"You are driving too quickly! You are driving too slow! The music is too loud! Change the station! Why didn't you fix my computer?! Peter has a better car! I want a new phone! Buy a new car, your's is shit!  We don't have money why did you buy that new car...." - Well f*** you!

So remember we know you are better than us in every possible way, just keep your comments to yourself or at least try use them in moderation.

Number 2

Do not step on your man's ego

Do not constantly judge and doubt us. On the contrary, you should support us. What makes a great man is a great woman beside him.

Number 3

Do not flirt with random guys or friends. Man's worst fear is being with a woman that anyone can have. Even if you are not so easy, your loving personality might be wrongly interpreted, for instance if you are the type of girl that hugs and kisses everyone, instead of sweet some may see you a bit slutty.

Number 4

Do not ever in your life touch his car without his permission! Just don't!

Number 5

Do not let him have you on the first date. This makes you very uninteresting for him and it also makes a bad impression. Try to make him fight for it, but don't make him wait too long as he will ditch you for sure. Moderation is the key to success and happiness.

In completely obvious news, breakups suck. But sometimes, the aftermath can be even more confusing and emotionally draining. It's totally normal to make some questionable decisions post-split—you're feeling lost, hurt, and less confident than usual. So to help you navigate this tricky breakup world, we've rounded up some of the common landmines you'll want to avoid. 

In completely obvious news, breakups suck. But sometimes, the aftermath can be even more confusing and emotionally draining. It's totally normal to make some questionable decisions post-split—you're feeling lost, hurt, and less confident than usual.  Just think of us as that helpful friend who pulls you back whenever you're about to do something you'll probably regret—like dying your hair green because he HATED the color green (um, so will you when it’s on your head). Here, what not to do after a breakup: 

Blow up his phone with several calls and texts per day. This is kind of like stalking, so, if he isn’t calling you back, hang up the phone. Also, you have better things to do! 

Eat your feelings. Yes, Chinese food would go great with the four hours of Netflix you plan to watch tonight, but making this an every night thing is not healthy. Plus, it won’t make you feel better—just bloated. 

Drink your feelings. Chances are you girlfriends will want to take you out for cocktails to vent, chat, and celebrate your singledom. One happy hour is fine, but not a week of tequila-induced sloppy nights. You’ll just feel worse once you sober up. Plus, a broken heart and a hangover don’t mix well. 

Sleep with the next guy who buys you a drink. Random hookups are always a little risky, but when you’re hot on the heels of a breakup, you’re even more likely to wake up feeling worse. Plus, who is this guy? You are way too hot for him! At least wait it out a little! 

Reconnect with other exes. Girl, you aren’t with them for a reason. Remember that time he flaked on your grandma’s funeral? Not cool. It’s natural to be craving something comfortable and reassuring right now, but it’s also pretty selfish to turn to an ex for that if you’re not really interested in getting back together. 

Obsess over his new girlfriend. It’s not her fault (well, probably not). Plus, one of the best ways to get over a split the healthy way is to take some responsibility for whatever part you played in the breakup—not blame it on that new chick who keeps popping up in his profile pictures. 

Take it public. It’s one thing to vent to your buddies, but publicly ranting isn’t cute, not even online. And grandiose public pleas can be just as risky—take it from Robin Thicke’s recent breakup saga. 

Jump into another relationship right away. Everyone copes in different ways, but give yourself a little time to heal. While research shows that rebound relationships aren’t always doomed, it’s important to recognize if you’ve fully moved on first. After all, you wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who’s still hung up on their ex, would you?

Try to get back at him. Do not, we repeat, do not go key his car or tell his boss he’s embezzling. It’s not worth it and revenge is not a good look on you—unless you’re Emily Thorne and you have your own TV show.

Forget to take some time for yourself. Staying busy with tons of plans can be great, but remember to give yourself some time to heal and process the breakup. After all, you’re pretty fantastic—with or without a partner—and now is the time to think of what you want.

source : Women's Health Mag