It's our belief that too many of us can over-analyse the situation, so maybe it time to sit back and learn how to flirt and have fun at the same time.
4 Pillars of Flirting
I believe there are 4 cornerstones, or pillars of flirting that make someone a good flirt.
These are Attitude, Awareness, Flexibility and Intention.
How is attiture important? Consider you life as a movie. Where you are the writer, the actor, the director and editor of this movie.
You get to choose the scene and you also get to choose the ending. You get to choose what you focus on and this in turn sets the scene for you movie.
Now, if you don't like anything that is happening in your movie then you change the movie.
So aside from external circumstances beyond out control, we can have control over our own movie.
We can control the attitude, the lines of our mutual dialogue, our flexibility in the way we react, our awareness in what we focus on and our intention by directing the movie.
The only problem is we cannot control other actors, the people we come across during the course of our life. We cannot stop people from not liking us or wanting to talk to us.
Remember what we believe about others affects how we treat them, and in turn, how they respond to us.
Learning How to Flirt
Practice makes perfect. The first step is to make sure you practice. It does not have to be with the one guy or girl you have had your eye on this last year, but anyone beyond the ring of your closest family or friends would help. In fact it is easier to learn how to flirt when there is less at stake sometimes. But remember you have to be careful. You don't want to hurt anyone in the course of your practice. It should be harmless flirting. Make your intentions clear that is nothing serious but just harmless flirting.
Learn how to flirt - what do we need to practice?
If there was one area or flirting tip to practice for most people it is 'eye contact'.
Eye Body Language
First of all practice making eye contact with whomever you meet or even pass in the street. It is great for self confidence. Make sure that in your work place and friends and family you make eye contact. Gaining self confidence will not hurt you in any case.
Put it another way - when you have felt less than confident - how much eye contact do you give? Probably not much.
Well why not put the cart before the horse and learn how to flirt with the basics, and start making eye contact and watch your confidence grow.
Secondly, it gives you that all important practice at maintaining eye contact while your knees start to shake or you feel queezy looking at that cute guy or girl - and doing this until you get used to it.
Now before you start walking around your neighbourhood eyeing every man, women and child like a social outcast, let us set the ground rules. You have to do subtly and politely.
First, practice just walking past someone in the street ..... Just try smiling and making eye contact with them.
Don't be discouraged if they don't return your smile. For many people, others will not smile back straight away at the beginning but that's all part of our practice and learning here.
Overcoming Fear of Rejection
In fact its critical as we develop our new confidence - not based on others thoughts or reactions.
Just try and practice this at least a few times per day. If you do nothing else for this week, just keep making eye contact to build that confidence.
If you are chatting with someone, just make sure you aren't looking at your feet but instead concentrating on the person's face. Look away once in a while so they don't think you are staring them down of course.
source: ( TopTipsClub)
